How the Status of Women Changed in the Bible
Why is it that the Bible seems so unfriendly to women? After all it would appear that most of the members and committee volunteers in a congregation are female. Yet holding office, being ordained, serving in any real capacity is pretty much forbidden. Some congregations even hold up the marital status of a woman (i.e., divorced or not) as to whether or not a woman can truly advance within the denomination's hierarchy.
Other than male dominance, prejudiced tradition, and/or a misunderstanding of the scriptures, why is that? The short answer is: male dominance, prejudiced tradition, and a misuse of the Bible. This short article cannot discuss male dominance or prejudiced tradition. We'll focus on the misuse of the scriptures.
To read and digest the Bible we must understand several things: the mind and situation of the writer; the mind and situation of the audience; and the message the writer was trying to communicate. Having understood that, we can begin to strip away the external "trappings" of the writer (e.g., those elements of the Old Testament texts that clearly belong in the late Bronze Age or of the New Testament texts that clearly belong to the culture of the early first century) and concentrate on the true underlying message.
In short, just like us, the writers of biblical scripture were people of their times and their cultures. It shows.
In the Old Testament the whole concept of eternal life – important in any religious system – was understood as the growth and survival of one's clan or progeny. Similar to the early cultures of our Native Americans, it was the tribe or clan that was the integral unit of society – not the individual. Preservation of the tribe was paramount. This was most certainly the case in the Bronze and Iron Ages of the nomadic tribes/clans of the Fertile Crescent in the mid-East – known as the cradle of western civilization.
Cultural norms followed and supported that critical concept. Since men were the fighters and could impregnate more than one woman at a time, men were more expendable. For a man to have multiple wives was a sanctioned practice – provided he could financially take care of them. The use of a dowry in exchange for a daughter was an integral foundation of the nomadic economy. Underlying all of this was the preeminent notion of preserving the tribe or clan.
This religious/social/economic concept worked. It was successful for a long time – over 3,000 years (from 3,500 BCE to the rise of city-states under Alexander the Great's rule about 350 BCE, when urban dwelling began the slow process of breaking this down). It was not unique to the Old Testament Israelites. It was true throughout the Mesopotamian Region: Sumerians, Akkadians, Philistines, Amorites, Hittites, Babylonians, Assyrians, etc.
This patriarchal social structure is evident throughout the Old Testament and was, by our standards, very demeaning for women. Women were not much better than chattel property. Abraham had his wife Sarah's handmaiden, Hagar, after Sarah could not get pregnant. Once Sarah did get pregnant, Abraham banished Hagar and their son, Ishmael. Legend has it that mother and son are buried in Mecca and Ishmael is generally considered to be the patriarchal father of Islam. (cf. Genesis 21:8-21)
During the time of the New Testament, the role of women was denigrated during the first 100 years after the crucifixion of Jesus. We can only speculate about how and why that happened. The earliest writer in the New Testament was the Apostle Paul, who wrote between 45-55 CE. We have eight of his original letters: Galatians; I-II Thessalonians; I-II Corinthians; Philemon, Philippians; and Romans. In these letters Paul routinely praises local female parishioners in his epistles. For example, in Romans 16:1-15, he praises Phoebe, who holds office in the congregation of Cenchreae, as well as quite a few other women.
However, when he begins discussing specific congregational issues, he lets the cultural values of his Jewish upbringing show through (I Cor. 11:2-16). Yes, Paul admonishes his congregations to have women's head covered or to remain subservient to men. Yet, even so, he concludes by saying, "If push comes to shove, however, we have none of these customs in a Christian congregation" (I Cor 11:16). Why the confusion? I can only speculate that in the early beginnings, when congregations were meeting informally in homes, the role of the women in making that happen and in spreading the word was much more significant and critical for success. Although Paul was aware of his Jewish customs and could recommend them, it was really no big deal to him.
As these congregations grew and became more organized, the male-dominated culture took sway and women began getting pushed out. Compare Paul's letter to the Galatians (his earliest, c. 45) or his epistle to the Romans (his latest, c. 55/60) with passages like I Timothy 2:8-15, written (c.110/120) in Paul's name but decades after his death. You can see the difference. The denigration of women is even more pronounced.
However, we have to keep in mind that all of Paul 's letters were written in his firm belief that the end of the world and the permanent coming of the kingdom of heaven was – literally – just around the corner. "What I mean, my friends, is this. The time we live in will not last long. While it lasts, married men should be as if they had no wives; mourners should be as if they had nothing to grieve them, the joyful as if they did not rejoice; buyers must not count on keeping what they buy, nor those who use the world's wealth on using it to the full. For the whole frame of this world is passing away." I Cor. 7: 29-31. Understanding this puts the onus on us to interpret all the cultural trappings of Paul's writings within the context of being intended by him as very "short-term" advice.
By the time of the beginning of the second century, there was a formal church organization in place. The organization consisted of various offices: Bishops (episcopoi) or overseers; elders (presbyteroi) or leaders; and deacons (diaconoi) or trusted servers of the Lord. Together these offices formed the backbone and structure of the embryonic Christian church. They were generally all male. The secondary role of women became more and more pronounced as time went by. Culturally, we can understand this. We can understand this when it's reflected in scripture because we know that biblical writers reflected their times. But to ascribe this as God's will is to misread the scripture by refusing to winnow away the cultural bias of the writer's times.
We continue to maintain a second-class role for women in many of our congregations today. We refuse ordination for them as ministers or the priesthood. We maintain the subservient role they are to fill in the household. We do this by erroneously holding onto literal interpretations of the scripture when it suits us.
What can we conclude from this? Those today proclaiming the lower role for women in the church structure and citing biblical references to buttress their position are doing so more as an act of their machismo than as an exposition of biblical knowledge. Paul felt fully free to restate the accepted narrative of Israel's history as he wrestled with deriving an answer to the question: "Who was Jesus and why did he die?" If Paul felt confident enough to reconstruct his scriptural heritage, we should have the courage to do the same. For us it simply means to strip the New Testament of the cultural trappings of the accepted male dominance and let Spirit, not sexual traditions, reign in our ecclesiastical organizations.
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Rubber clothing - a beginners guide
It's an intriguing question, why wear rubber?
First of all, I guess it's good to start with what is rubber?
Rubber is a natural substance, made from the sap of the rubber tree. It's collected, and treated, rolled flat into sheets and then "vulcanised" which basicly means they add sulphur and cook it in an oven!
Why make clothing from it?
Well, why not! It's just like any other material, it can be sewn, but more likely it's glued together to make garments. The glues used are very strong, as strong as the material it's bonding together. Rubber used to be seen as an "underground" material to make clothes from, for fetishists only really, but now it's getting more mainstream, it's commonly used in Film and TV to either convey "technology"or "futurism" or even "fetishism".
An example of rubber being used in films extensively would be The Matrix Trilogy. Most of Trinity's clothing in that was made by Reactor Rubberwear (www.rubber.com.au) as a lot of the Matrix was actually filmed in Australia.
So come on, why would I wear it?
Because it feels nice, it makes you look sexy, and pulls you in! Well those aren't the only reasons, but they're good ones! If you're just thinking about getting into rubber, it might be an idea to start with something easy, and small, like Latex Shorts or a Rubber Bikini, these are easy to slip into and you'll know what it feels like to wear it, then move onto something a bit bigger and better!
If you've never tried it before, you must also be aware that you have to use some kind of 'lubricant' to get into rubber, usually sprinkling the inside with talcum powder will do the job. Once it's on, you have to give it a nice shine with some latex shine spray. Spray it direct into a cloth and wipe over the rubber with the cloth (saves getting shine spray everywhere!), now your latex is looking shiny and you'll be looking sexy!
Once you've got into this rubber thing, you can start looking at other garments such as catsuits, these are really sexy, they cover you from next to toe in rubber, and look like a second skin, basicly you can reveal everything without revealing everything, and be covered in your favorite material. They come in a variety of styles, can come with feet or no feet, back zip or front zip, the choice is yours! They can be tricky to get on (use plenty of talc), but once on you'll feel really sexy!
First of all, I guess it's good to start with what is rubber?
Rubber is a natural substance, made from the sap of the rubber tree. It's collected, and treated, rolled flat into sheets and then "vulcanised" which basicly means they add sulphur and cook it in an oven!
Why make clothing from it?
Well, why not! It's just like any other material, it can be sewn, but more likely it's glued together to make garments. The glues used are very strong, as strong as the material it's bonding together. Rubber used to be seen as an "underground" material to make clothes from, for fetishists only really, but now it's getting more mainstream, it's commonly used in Film and TV to either convey "technology"or "futurism" or even "fetishism".
An example of rubber being used in films extensively would be The Matrix Trilogy. Most of Trinity's clothing in that was made by Reactor Rubberwear (www.rubber.com.au) as a lot of the Matrix was actually filmed in Australia.
So come on, why would I wear it?
Because it feels nice, it makes you look sexy, and pulls you in! Well those aren't the only reasons, but they're good ones! If you're just thinking about getting into rubber, it might be an idea to start with something easy, and small, like Latex Shorts or a Rubber Bikini, these are easy to slip into and you'll know what it feels like to wear it, then move onto something a bit bigger and better!
If you've never tried it before, you must also be aware that you have to use some kind of 'lubricant' to get into rubber, usually sprinkling the inside with talcum powder will do the job. Once it's on, you have to give it a nice shine with some latex shine spray. Spray it direct into a cloth and wipe over the rubber with the cloth (saves getting shine spray everywhere!), now your latex is looking shiny and you'll be looking sexy!
Once you've got into this rubber thing, you can start looking at other garments such as catsuits, these are really sexy, they cover you from next to toe in rubber, and look like a second skin, basicly you can reveal everything without revealing everything, and be covered in your favorite material. They come in a variety of styles, can come with feet or no feet, back zip or front zip, the choice is yours! They can be tricky to get on (use plenty of talc), but once on you'll feel really sexy!
Size Matters - More to Men
Sigmund Freud, the father of Psychiatry, said that men had a sexual thought consciously or subconsciously every 3 seconds. He timed it like a racehorse when he wasn't busy having sexual relations with his mother. Psychiatrists go to school for 22 years, subject themselves to years of Psychotherapy, then sit while you ramble and beg for advice for 45 minutes, only to say at the end, "What do you think? I'm afraid our time is up for this week." You could go insane merely from their torture tactics.
Obviously penis size matters to a woman. Penises range in size from 1' to 14" on men. The longer and wider and harder the penis, the more friction is created, the deeper the penetration, and the more likely the woman is to achieve vaginal orgasm. However other things are more important to a woman, such as extended foreplay, clitoral stimulation to orgasm, g spot stimulation to orgasm, and length of time after intercourse before the man hails a cab, generally anywhere from 5 to 7 minutes on average.
Size definitely matters to women, but it matters far more to men. Penis envy is not a female phenomenon despite the ravings of the incestuous Dr. Freud. Penis envy is a male phenomenon. Envying the length and width of the black penis is at the root of the Klu Klux Klan, says Mariah Carey. According to research done at Heidelberg University, it is a scientific fact that the purchases of Corvettes and BMW's are inversely proportional to the length of a man's penis. Men think that if they have an expensive fancy car then women will think that they are financially successful and will date them, leading other men to think that they are stacked.
The basic theme of any male Rap song and video is always the same. "I am the coolest most hung baddest dude in town and I can ride you all night long." This is always backed up by half naked stunning harem women slithering around the artist. The lack of a white boxing champion for the past 75 years since Rocky Marciano, has led white men to flock to seven sequels of the Rocky movie. Rocky is now coming out of retirement, the "Italian Stallion", for a rematch against Kanye West, who has been paid 5 million dollars to take a dive in the fifth, to soothe the wounded egos of male White America, and that's what it's all about anyway, "Ego".
The Ego is the part of the brain that either says in your mind, "I am wonderful", or "I am garbage." The "Id" is the part of your brain that says "I want food, water, sex etc." The Ego is what causes men to desire multiple partners endlessly through cyber dating, because once a woman gives in, no matter how beautiful she is, no matter how loving and caring, she has now lost the ability to give to the man the thing he wants most to boost his Ego, that initial conquest, that triggers in the man's mind, "I am great, I conquered her." Men need this to compensate for wounded Egos received at the hands of their insecure fathers, because criticism and control make the father feel great, to compensate for their own reality, unfulfilled wives due to their tiny narrow limp phallus. This is the root cause of the male mid life crisis, leading to divorce and insecure offspring because the male now needs a young wife the same way that he needs a Corvette. Have you ever noticed the shape of a Corvette
This would all be bad enough but size issues are at the root of male competitiveness in both sports and war. Kim Jong Il, the mini me leader of North Korea has a stable of gorgeous young blonde American women, to make up for his tiny thang. "That's all you got, baby?" Those words led to the swift execution of a one hit wonder American Diva who was all into the Grace Kelly thing. This would be bad enough, but the development of nuclear weapons and the verbal bravado of this midget against the United States is directly linked to the madman midget's size insecurity. Ironically midgets are generally very well endowed in proportion to their body size, and this is why they have such confidence. A well known self confidence building mantra used extensively by the Moonies, is "My rooster is huge and hard, and I can ride you all night long." The problem has become so bad, that erectile dysfunction has become the third leading growth industry worldwide, and men are running for medication named after the enormous gushing of the massive powerful power generating Niagara Falls, even knowing that it causes a rare but pervasive form of blindness.
Martha Stewart has a solution for this insecurity problem which is now leading us all into the Apocalypse, the sudden violent end of all life on Earth forever. The Christian people are eagerly constructing and waiting for the Apocalypse, so that when it comes, after about 30 seconds, they can all say as One, "Look, we were right!" This need to be right, and this unbearable pain of being wrong, is a direct result of penis insecurity. Martha's solution is that all men be forced to wear their bag and their bone on their foreheads, for all to see, to instantly put an end to all the b/s and bluffing leading us all into the nuclear inferno. Oprah seconds the motion. She has the most to lose, according to Dr. Phil, the bald barking know it all with the 3 inch penis. Our modern Dr. Freud wears a sock folded in his pants to hide his shortcomings. Maybe an international naked at work day is the answer for saving life on earth. Maybe the Apocalypse won't be that bad. At least it will put an end to the zillions of Erectile Dysfunction (medications for 1 inch shriveled up things that refuse to stand up no matter how much kiddy porn the man watches) emails in our email boxes. How do these snake oil salesmen get our addresses anyways? Why aren't they all blind yet? The insecurity disease has now spread to women rushing for breast implants, and to the male obsession with increasing their Google Page Ranking. Have you ever noticed the graphic that Sergey Brin and Larry Page use to display that ranking? They didn't become zillionaires at 32 by being oblivious to the male fixation with size now, did they?
Obviously penis size matters to a woman. Penises range in size from 1' to 14" on men. The longer and wider and harder the penis, the more friction is created, the deeper the penetration, and the more likely the woman is to achieve vaginal orgasm. However other things are more important to a woman, such as extended foreplay, clitoral stimulation to orgasm, g spot stimulation to orgasm, and length of time after intercourse before the man hails a cab, generally anywhere from 5 to 7 minutes on average.
Size definitely matters to women, but it matters far more to men. Penis envy is not a female phenomenon despite the ravings of the incestuous Dr. Freud. Penis envy is a male phenomenon. Envying the length and width of the black penis is at the root of the Klu Klux Klan, says Mariah Carey. According to research done at Heidelberg University, it is a scientific fact that the purchases of Corvettes and BMW's are inversely proportional to the length of a man's penis. Men think that if they have an expensive fancy car then women will think that they are financially successful and will date them, leading other men to think that they are stacked.
The basic theme of any male Rap song and video is always the same. "I am the coolest most hung baddest dude in town and I can ride you all night long." This is always backed up by half naked stunning harem women slithering around the artist. The lack of a white boxing champion for the past 75 years since Rocky Marciano, has led white men to flock to seven sequels of the Rocky movie. Rocky is now coming out of retirement, the "Italian Stallion", for a rematch against Kanye West, who has been paid 5 million dollars to take a dive in the fifth, to soothe the wounded egos of male White America, and that's what it's all about anyway, "Ego".
The Ego is the part of the brain that either says in your mind, "I am wonderful", or "I am garbage." The "Id" is the part of your brain that says "I want food, water, sex etc." The Ego is what causes men to desire multiple partners endlessly through cyber dating, because once a woman gives in, no matter how beautiful she is, no matter how loving and caring, she has now lost the ability to give to the man the thing he wants most to boost his Ego, that initial conquest, that triggers in the man's mind, "I am great, I conquered her." Men need this to compensate for wounded Egos received at the hands of their insecure fathers, because criticism and control make the father feel great, to compensate for their own reality, unfulfilled wives due to their tiny narrow limp phallus. This is the root cause of the male mid life crisis, leading to divorce and insecure offspring because the male now needs a young wife the same way that he needs a Corvette. Have you ever noticed the shape of a Corvette
This would all be bad enough but size issues are at the root of male competitiveness in both sports and war. Kim Jong Il, the mini me leader of North Korea has a stable of gorgeous young blonde American women, to make up for his tiny thang. "That's all you got, baby?" Those words led to the swift execution of a one hit wonder American Diva who was all into the Grace Kelly thing. This would be bad enough, but the development of nuclear weapons and the verbal bravado of this midget against the United States is directly linked to the madman midget's size insecurity. Ironically midgets are generally very well endowed in proportion to their body size, and this is why they have such confidence. A well known self confidence building mantra used extensively by the Moonies, is "My rooster is huge and hard, and I can ride you all night long." The problem has become so bad, that erectile dysfunction has become the third leading growth industry worldwide, and men are running for medication named after the enormous gushing of the massive powerful power generating Niagara Falls, even knowing that it causes a rare but pervasive form of blindness.
Martha Stewart has a solution for this insecurity problem which is now leading us all into the Apocalypse, the sudden violent end of all life on Earth forever. The Christian people are eagerly constructing and waiting for the Apocalypse, so that when it comes, after about 30 seconds, they can all say as One, "Look, we were right!" This need to be right, and this unbearable pain of being wrong, is a direct result of penis insecurity. Martha's solution is that all men be forced to wear their bag and their bone on their foreheads, for all to see, to instantly put an end to all the b/s and bluffing leading us all into the nuclear inferno. Oprah seconds the motion. She has the most to lose, according to Dr. Phil, the bald barking know it all with the 3 inch penis. Our modern Dr. Freud wears a sock folded in his pants to hide his shortcomings. Maybe an international naked at work day is the answer for saving life on earth. Maybe the Apocalypse won't be that bad. At least it will put an end to the zillions of Erectile Dysfunction (medications for 1 inch shriveled up things that refuse to stand up no matter how much kiddy porn the man watches) emails in our email boxes. How do these snake oil salesmen get our addresses anyways? Why aren't they all blind yet? The insecurity disease has now spread to women rushing for breast implants, and to the male obsession with increasing their Google Page Ranking. Have you ever noticed the graphic that Sergey Brin and Larry Page use to display that ranking? They didn't become zillionaires at 32 by being oblivious to the male fixation with size now, did they?
HOW TO DATE A BLACK GIRL
Would you rather date a white girl than a black chick? This questions may sound anti-racial but hey, I've seen enough not to ignore this question.
Fellas, can I all give you a question? During my university days I've seen black girls and guys kicked it and most of the time the girls end up to like the guy and all of a sudden he will just call it quits. Sad scene is these black guys easily hang on to white chicks. What's with white chicks that these guys go head-over-heels with? Why a black girl is easily passed over for a white gal?
Well because these guys think that black girls are just too strong-willed for them, not easy to handle. I can't remember where exactly I read these but it just left a mark on me and never had forgotten them.
If you want a queen, be with a black girl,
If you want a dumb ass who hangs on my every word, get a white girl,
If I want a challenge, go for an African girl
A chick to do what you say, when you say, then it's a white girl.
(With all due respect to both parties, I've got nothing against anyone.)
Now if you wanted to date a black girl you must be real toughie then, strong-willed guys for equally strong –willed women. Historically, ebony women had lots of struggles, husbands being beaten to death right at their very eyes, been separated from their children and became slaves all their lives not until there was this so called BLACK LIBERATION. No wonder black women had evolved to strong and determined beings. Want to make a black girl smile? Simply appreciate her but be watchful on what you say. There are some things you should never say to a black girl.
Now, never say "I was raised by black people," (If your nanny or butler was black when you were growing up, you do not pass as an honorary black person.) I find black girls' do so cool but ooooppppssssss it's a no-no to ask to touch her hair. Don't ask anything about the hair, or whether you can touch it. Such an exchange will never end well." Black women are so much cooler with sex than white women, "if you think that implying black women are losers than white women are gonna get you some, you're wrong dude! Never leave her this comment "It's not like you're the first black woman I've dated would never impress her, it comes off as creepy fetishizing .Lastly, NEVER EVER SAY "You are the black version of Audrey Hepburn (it would not please her if you say she is the black version of a certain white woman.) Commit these mistakes and you're doomed not to have any black girl for a date or could never ask her out again.
Regardless of the color, girls are just too hard to please. So there, good luck on your next or first date with a black girl.
Fellas, can I all give you a question? During my university days I've seen black girls and guys kicked it and most of the time the girls end up to like the guy and all of a sudden he will just call it quits. Sad scene is these black guys easily hang on to white chicks. What's with white chicks that these guys go head-over-heels with? Why a black girl is easily passed over for a white gal?
Well because these guys think that black girls are just too strong-willed for them, not easy to handle. I can't remember where exactly I read these but it just left a mark on me and never had forgotten them.
If you want a queen, be with a black girl,
If you want a dumb ass who hangs on my every word, get a white girl,
If I want a challenge, go for an African girl
A chick to do what you say, when you say, then it's a white girl.
(With all due respect to both parties, I've got nothing against anyone.)
Now if you wanted to date a black girl you must be real toughie then, strong-willed guys for equally strong –willed women. Historically, ebony women had lots of struggles, husbands being beaten to death right at their very eyes, been separated from their children and became slaves all their lives not until there was this so called BLACK LIBERATION. No wonder black women had evolved to strong and determined beings. Want to make a black girl smile? Simply appreciate her but be watchful on what you say. There are some things you should never say to a black girl.
Now, never say "I was raised by black people," (If your nanny or butler was black when you were growing up, you do not pass as an honorary black person.) I find black girls' do so cool but ooooppppssssss it's a no-no to ask to touch her hair. Don't ask anything about the hair, or whether you can touch it. Such an exchange will never end well." Black women are so much cooler with sex than white women, "if you think that implying black women are losers than white women are gonna get you some, you're wrong dude! Never leave her this comment "It's not like you're the first black woman I've dated would never impress her, it comes off as creepy fetishizing .Lastly, NEVER EVER SAY "You are the black version of Audrey Hepburn (it would not please her if you say she is the black version of a certain white woman.) Commit these mistakes and you're doomed not to have any black girl for a date or could never ask her out again.
Regardless of the color, girls are just too hard to please. So there, good luck on your next or first date with a black girl.
Bring into Being a Trendy Relationship - Part 2
Travel from time to time! With no "guides"!
- A journey round the world would be an unique experience for both of you. As sure as eggs is eggs. But... If you will rush into wandering worldwide without him, the story would be more stunning!
- When you'll come back and relate stories about all those miraculous things you've seen over there, right over the Ocean... About that jumbo dildo that you've noticed and touched in that African tribe... Oh, believe me! He will delight those awesome moments right through your eyes!
- Just imagine how happy he will be to see you back. Again in his strong arms... I suppose it deserves the effort, ah?
- Trips are real spiritual experiences that everyone of us should make all alone (from time to time). They can help to rediscover yourself as an individual. And there is not a catastrophe that he is absent during your spiritual trips.
Rule N.7
Everyone with... his/her own bathroom
- He will never understand the reasons why you stay around three hours between these 4 walls. He will never accept the idea that you need creams, peeling lotions, moisturizing potions and mascara for sensible eyes...
- Bath-room! That's not a room for you to take a 5 minutes shower, clean your teeth and Voila! Basta for this morning!
- So, instead of hearing the same mottoes and comments about the infinite hours you spend in your bathroom, better absence!
- And moreover, I am sure that you don't want to be caught in the process of... epilation!
- The solution is as simple as ABC! Two bathrooms! Thus he will never complain, you will never be angry with him and the misunderstandings between you will solve as a matter of course.
Rule N.8
Don't bother him with visits to your relatives
- No matter how much you love your Mom and those 5 naughty kids of your sister, don't "trail" your man to their birthday parties!
- Even though your family won't "devour" him, all they will analyze him from head to toes. For sure! Of course, he may not feel comfortable and chilled-out. That's just during the first encounter...
- Next time it will be worse... He will have to politely communicate with you lovely Mom and feel like a piece of meat which is thoroughly analyzed by a potential mother-in-law.
- How would you feel in his mother's clutches... without having no way out! Uhhh! This image gives you horrors, doesn't it?
Rule N.9
Think of a better job (better than his)
- Your lover has a job that involves lots of responsibilities. His wage is truly "marvelous" and he doesn't face any difficulties in providing you with presents and financial support.
- But... The world starts to belong to female CEOs and to those ladies who earn exorbitant sums of money.
- So, "prepare" your mind and body for 20 hours of work per day. Let him stay home, cook cakes, make vegetarian salads for you and entertain your children.
- Do you think you are condemned to lead your life in front of a pot and a bad-paid job? The Middle Ages has passed. So, make the most of your opportunities and make your life more thrilling.
- You are beautiful, clever, young and ready for new chances. You can obtain every profession you like, be it of a cosmonaut or a pilot of Formula 1.
Rule N.10
Experiment under sheets!
- "Is sex dirty? - Only if it's done right." This famous saying belongs to Woody Allen and the man is right.
- When speaking about sex - it's like in the kitchen. The clue is to experiment. As long as you are together, don't hesitate to explore your world of sexuality.
- Try out new things and sex positions, sex toys and kinky games for chasing the boredom away. Welcome his sexual fantasies and let them come true.
- And once you find everything you need and make you both happy within your bedroom, be sure infidelity will stay far away from you.
Good luck!
Bring into Being a Trendy Relationship - Part 2
Rule N.6
Travel from time to time! With no "guides"!
- A journey round the world would be an unique experience for both of you. As sure as eggs is eggs. But... If you will rush into wandering worldwide without him, the story would be more stunning!
- When you'll come back and relate stories about all those miraculous things you've seen over there, right over the Ocean... About that jumbo dildo that you've noticed and touched in that African tribe... Oh, believe me! He will delight those awesome moments right through your eyes!
- Just imagine how happy he will be to see you back. Again in his strong arms... I suppose it deserves the effort, ah?
- Trips are real spiritual experiences that everyone of us should make all alone (from time to time). They can help to rediscover yourself as an individual. And there is not a catastrophe that he is absent during your spiritual trips.
Rule N.7
Everyone with... his/her own bathroom
- He will never understand the reasons why you stay around three hours between these 4 walls. He will never accept the idea that you need creams, peeling lotions, moisturizing potions and mascara for sensible eyes...
- Bath-room! That's not a room for you to take a 5 minutes shower, clean your teeth and Voila! Basta for this morning!
- So, instead of hearing the same mottoes and comments about the infinite hours you spend in your bathroom, better absence!
- And moreover, I am sure that you don't want to be caught in the process of... epilation!
- The solution is as simple as ABC! Two bathrooms! Thus he will never complain, you will never be angry with him and the misunderstandings between you will solve as a matter of course.
Rule N.8
Don't bother him with visits to your relatives
- No matter how much you love your Mom and those 5 naughty kids of your sister, don't "trail" your man to their birthday parties!
- Even though your family won't "devour" him, all they will analyze him from head to toes. For sure! Of course, he may not feel comfortable and chilled-out. That's just during the first encounter...
- Next time it will be worse... He will have to politely communicate with you lovely Mom and feel like a piece of meat which is thoroughly analyzed by a potential mother-in-law.
- How would you feel in his mother's clutches... without having no way out! Uhhh! This image gives you horrors, doesn't it?
Rule N.9
Think of a better job (better than his)
- Your lover has a job that involves lots of responsibilities. His wage is truly "marvelous" and he doesn't face any difficulties in providing you with presents and financial support.
- But... The world starts to belong to female CEOs and to those ladies who earn exorbitant sums of money.
- So, "prepare" your mind and body for 20 hours of work per day. Let him stay home, cook cakes, make vegetarian salads for you and entertain your children.
- Do you think you are condemned to lead your life in front of a pot and a bad-paid job? The Middle Ages has passed. So, make the most of your opportunities and make your life more thrilling.
- You are beautiful, clever, young and ready for new chances. You can obtain every profession you like, be it of a cosmonaut or a pilot of Formula 1.
Rule N.10
Experiment under sheets!
- "Is sex dirty? - Only if it's done right." This famous saying belongs to Woody Allen and the man is right.
- When speaking about sex - it's like in the kitchen. The clue is to experiment. As long as you are together, don't hesitate to explore your world of sexuality.
- Try out new things and sex positions, sex toys and kinky games for chasing the boredom away. Welcome his sexual fantasies and let them come true.
- And once you find everything you need and make you both happy within your bedroom, be sure infidelity will stay far away from you.
Good luck!
Travel from time to time! With no "guides"!
- A journey round the world would be an unique experience for both of you. As sure as eggs is eggs. But... If you will rush into wandering worldwide without him, the story would be more stunning!
- When you'll come back and relate stories about all those miraculous things you've seen over there, right over the Ocean... About that jumbo dildo that you've noticed and touched in that African tribe... Oh, believe me! He will delight those awesome moments right through your eyes!
- Just imagine how happy he will be to see you back. Again in his strong arms... I suppose it deserves the effort, ah?
- Trips are real spiritual experiences that everyone of us should make all alone (from time to time). They can help to rediscover yourself as an individual. And there is not a catastrophe that he is absent during your spiritual trips.
Rule N.7
Everyone with... his/her own bathroom
- He will never understand the reasons why you stay around three hours between these 4 walls. He will never accept the idea that you need creams, peeling lotions, moisturizing potions and mascara for sensible eyes...
- Bath-room! That's not a room for you to take a 5 minutes shower, clean your teeth and Voila! Basta for this morning!
- So, instead of hearing the same mottoes and comments about the infinite hours you spend in your bathroom, better absence!
- And moreover, I am sure that you don't want to be caught in the process of... epilation!
- The solution is as simple as ABC! Two bathrooms! Thus he will never complain, you will never be angry with him and the misunderstandings between you will solve as a matter of course.
Rule N.8
Don't bother him with visits to your relatives
- No matter how much you love your Mom and those 5 naughty kids of your sister, don't "trail" your man to their birthday parties!
- Even though your family won't "devour" him, all they will analyze him from head to toes. For sure! Of course, he may not feel comfortable and chilled-out. That's just during the first encounter...
- Next time it will be worse... He will have to politely communicate with you lovely Mom and feel like a piece of meat which is thoroughly analyzed by a potential mother-in-law.
- How would you feel in his mother's clutches... without having no way out! Uhhh! This image gives you horrors, doesn't it?
Rule N.9
Think of a better job (better than his)
- Your lover has a job that involves lots of responsibilities. His wage is truly "marvelous" and he doesn't face any difficulties in providing you with presents and financial support.
- But... The world starts to belong to female CEOs and to those ladies who earn exorbitant sums of money.
- So, "prepare" your mind and body for 20 hours of work per day. Let him stay home, cook cakes, make vegetarian salads for you and entertain your children.
- Do you think you are condemned to lead your life in front of a pot and a bad-paid job? The Middle Ages has passed. So, make the most of your opportunities and make your life more thrilling.
- You are beautiful, clever, young and ready for new chances. You can obtain every profession you like, be it of a cosmonaut or a pilot of Formula 1.
Rule N.10
Experiment under sheets!
- "Is sex dirty? - Only if it's done right." This famous saying belongs to Woody Allen and the man is right.
- When speaking about sex - it's like in the kitchen. The clue is to experiment. As long as you are together, don't hesitate to explore your world of sexuality.
- Try out new things and sex positions, sex toys and kinky games for chasing the boredom away. Welcome his sexual fantasies and let them come true.
- And once you find everything you need and make you both happy within your bedroom, be sure infidelity will stay far away from you.
Good luck!
Rubber clothing - a beginners guide
It's an intriguing question, why wear rubber?
First of all, I guess it's good to start with what is rubber?
Rubber is a natural substance, made from the sap of the rubber tree. It's collected, and treated, rolled flat into sheets and then "vulcanised" which basicly means they add sulphur and cook it in an oven!
Why make clothing from it?
Well, why not! It's just like any other material, it can be sewn, but more likely it's glued together to make garments. The glues used are very strong, as strong as the material it's bonding together. Rubber used to be seen as an "underground" material to make clothes from, for fetishists only really, but now it's getting more mainstream, it's commonly used in Film and TV to either convey "technology"or "futurism" or even "fetishism".
An example of rubber being used in films extensively would be The Matrix Trilogy. Most of Trinity's clothing in that was made by Reactor Rubberwear (www.rubber.com.au) as a lot of the Matrix was actually filmed in Australia.
So come on, why would I wear it?
Because it feels nice, it makes you look sexy, and pulls you in! Well those aren't the only reasons, but they're good ones! If you're just thinking about getting into rubber, it might be an idea to start with something easy, and small, like Latex Shorts or a Rubber Bikini, these are easy to slip into and you'll know what it feels like to wear it, then move onto something a bit bigger and better!
If you've never tried it before, you must also be aware that you have to use some kind of 'lubricant' to get into rubber, usually sprinkling the inside with talcum powder will do the job. Once it's on, you have to give it a nice shine with some latex shine spray. Spray it direct into a cloth and wipe over the rubber with the cloth (saves getting shine spray everywhere!), now your latex is looking shiny and you'll be looking sexy!
Once you've got into this rubber thing, you can start looking at other garments such as catsuits, these are really sexy, they cover you from next to toe in rubber, and look like a second skin, basicly you can reveal everything without revealing everything, and be covered in your favorite material. They come in a variety of styles, can come with feet or no feet, back zip or front zip, the choice is yours! They can be tricky to get on (use plenty of talc), but once on you'll feel really sexy!
First of all, I guess it's good to start with what is rubber?
Rubber is a natural substance, made from the sap of the rubber tree. It's collected, and treated, rolled flat into sheets and then "vulcanised" which basicly means they add sulphur and cook it in an oven!
Why make clothing from it?
Well, why not! It's just like any other material, it can be sewn, but more likely it's glued together to make garments. The glues used are very strong, as strong as the material it's bonding together. Rubber used to be seen as an "underground" material to make clothes from, for fetishists only really, but now it's getting more mainstream, it's commonly used in Film and TV to either convey "technology"or "futurism" or even "fetishism".
An example of rubber being used in films extensively would be The Matrix Trilogy. Most of Trinity's clothing in that was made by Reactor Rubberwear (www.rubber.com.au) as a lot of the Matrix was actually filmed in Australia.
So come on, why would I wear it?
Because it feels nice, it makes you look sexy, and pulls you in! Well those aren't the only reasons, but they're good ones! If you're just thinking about getting into rubber, it might be an idea to start with something easy, and small, like Latex Shorts or a Rubber Bikini, these are easy to slip into and you'll know what it feels like to wear it, then move onto something a bit bigger and better!
If you've never tried it before, you must also be aware that you have to use some kind of 'lubricant' to get into rubber, usually sprinkling the inside with talcum powder will do the job. Once it's on, you have to give it a nice shine with some latex shine spray. Spray it direct into a cloth and wipe over the rubber with the cloth (saves getting shine spray everywhere!), now your latex is looking shiny and you'll be looking sexy!
Once you've got into this rubber thing, you can start looking at other garments such as catsuits, these are really sexy, they cover you from next to toe in rubber, and look like a second skin, basicly you can reveal everything without revealing everything, and be covered in your favorite material. They come in a variety of styles, can come with feet or no feet, back zip or front zip, the choice is yours! They can be tricky to get on (use plenty of talc), but once on you'll feel really sexy!
The History Of Pay Per View Demand
Pay per view is a system where a television viewer can purchase events that are telecast on TV and pay for it to privately air in their homes. When you purchase an event like this it is shown to everyone who orders it at the same exact time, but there is also an option known as pay per view demand. With pay per view demand, you can start the program or event you bought at any time you want. This is a nice feature because it allows you to tailor it to fit into your schedule instead of the other way around. Pay per view can be ordered using an on screen guide, an automated telephone system or with a live customer service representative. It is always nice to have the option to speak with a customer service representative because you can have any of your questions or concerns addressed right away. Although pay per view is offered through your local cable provider, it is actually considered a separate industry.
Pay per view gained its mainstream popularity mostly from sporting events. For the first time, it allowed fans to watch events that were broadcast all over the world without actually having to be there in person. The first major pay per view event took place on September 16, 1981 when Sugar Ray Leonard fought Thomas Hearns for the Welterweight Championship. A company in Nashville, Tennessee called Viacom Cablevision was the first one to offer this event and they sold more than 50% of their customers for the fight. This set quite a precedent for pay per view events in the future. They actually got Sugar Ray Leonard to visit Nashville to promote the fight which made the event such a huge success.
The term pay per view did not become widely used until the 1990s when companies like IN Demand, Showtime and HBO began using the system to broadcast their programs and movies. While boxing has always been one of the biggest things purchased through pay per view, concerts and show movies also became very popular. This is when the idea of offering pay per view demand came about because they saw an opportunity to capitalize on the popularity of pay per view. The only problem with the current pay per view system was that not everyone was available to view something at the same time. Pay per view demand gave viewers the ability to decide when they would watch a purchased event, which ultimately made subscribers much more satisfied.
Pay per view gained its mainstream popularity mostly from sporting events. For the first time, it allowed fans to watch events that were broadcast all over the world without actually having to be there in person. The first major pay per view event took place on September 16, 1981 when Sugar Ray Leonard fought Thomas Hearns for the Welterweight Championship. A company in Nashville, Tennessee called Viacom Cablevision was the first one to offer this event and they sold more than 50% of their customers for the fight. This set quite a precedent for pay per view events in the future. They actually got Sugar Ray Leonard to visit Nashville to promote the fight which made the event such a huge success.
The term pay per view did not become widely used until the 1990s when companies like IN Demand, Showtime and HBO began using the system to broadcast their programs and movies. While boxing has always been one of the biggest things purchased through pay per view, concerts and show movies also became very popular. This is when the idea of offering pay per view demand came about because they saw an opportunity to capitalize on the popularity of pay per view. The only problem with the current pay per view system was that not everyone was available to view something at the same time. Pay per view demand gave viewers the ability to decide when they would watch a purchased event, which ultimately made subscribers much more satisfied.
Bring into Being a Trendy Relationship - Part 2
Travel from time to time! With no "guides"!
- A journey round the world would be an unique experience for both of you. As sure as eggs is eggs. But... If you will rush into wandering worldwide without him, the story would be more stunning!
- When you'll come back and relate stories about all those miraculous things you've seen over there, right over the Ocean... About that jumbo dildo that you've noticed and touched in that African tribe... Oh, believe me! He will delight those awesome moments right through your eyes!
- Just imagine how happy he will be to see you back. Again in his strong arms... I suppose it deserves the effort, ah?
- Trips are real spiritual experiences that everyone of us should make all alone (from time to time). They can help to rediscover yourself as an individual. And there is not a catastrophe that he is absent during your spiritual trips.
Rule N.7
Everyone with... his/her own bathroom
- He will never understand the reasons why you stay around three hours between these 4 walls. He will never accept the idea that you need creams, peeling lotions, moisturizing potions and mascara for sensible eyes...
- Bath-room! That's not a room for you to take a 5 minutes shower, clean your teeth and Voila! Basta for this morning!
- So, instead of hearing the same mottoes and comments about the infinite hours you spend in your bathroom, better absence!
- And moreover, I am sure that you don't want to be caught in the process of... epilation!
- The solution is as simple as ABC! Two bathrooms! Thus he will never complain, you will never be angry with him and the misunderstandings between you will solve as a matter of course.
Rule N.8
Don't bother him with visits to your relatives
- No matter how much you love your Mom and those 5 naughty kids of your sister, don't "trail" your man to their birthday parties!
- Even though your family won't "devour" him, all they will analyze him from head to toes. For sure! Of course, he may not feel comfortable and chilled-out. That's just during the first encounter...
- Next time it will be worse... He will have to politely communicate with you lovely Mom and feel like a piece of meat which is thoroughly analyzed by a potential mother-in-law.
- How would you feel in his mother's clutches... without having no way out! Uhhh! This image gives you horrors, doesn't it?
Rule N.9
Think of a better job (better than his)
- Your lover has a job that involves lots of responsibilities. His wage is truly "marvelous" and he doesn't face any difficulties in providing you with presents and financial support.
- But... The world starts to belong to female CEOs and to those ladies who earn exorbitant sums of money.
- So, "prepare" your mind and body for 20 hours of work per day. Let him stay home, cook cakes, make vegetarian salads for you and entertain your children.
- Do you think you are condemned to lead your life in front of a pot and a bad-paid job? The Middle Ages has passed. So, make the most of your opportunities and make your life more thrilling.
- You are beautiful, clever, young and ready for new chances. You can obtain every profession you like, be it of a cosmonaut or a pilot of Formula 1.
Rule N.10
Experiment under sheets!
- "Is sex dirty? - Only if it's done right." This famous saying belongs to Woody Allen and the man is right.
- When speaking about sex - it's like in the kitchen. The clue is to experiment. As long as you are together, don't hesitate to explore your world of sexuality.
- Try out new things and sex positions, sex toys and kinky games for chasing the boredom away. Welcome his sexual fantasies and let them come true.
- And once you find everything you need and make you both happy within your bedroom, be sure infidelity will stay far away from you.
Good luck!
- A journey round the world would be an unique experience for both of you. As sure as eggs is eggs. But... If you will rush into wandering worldwide without him, the story would be more stunning!
- When you'll come back and relate stories about all those miraculous things you've seen over there, right over the Ocean... About that jumbo dildo that you've noticed and touched in that African tribe... Oh, believe me! He will delight those awesome moments right through your eyes!
- Just imagine how happy he will be to see you back. Again in his strong arms... I suppose it deserves the effort, ah?
- Trips are real spiritual experiences that everyone of us should make all alone (from time to time). They can help to rediscover yourself as an individual. And there is not a catastrophe that he is absent during your spiritual trips.
Rule N.7
Everyone with... his/her own bathroom
- He will never understand the reasons why you stay around three hours between these 4 walls. He will never accept the idea that you need creams, peeling lotions, moisturizing potions and mascara for sensible eyes...
- Bath-room! That's not a room for you to take a 5 minutes shower, clean your teeth and Voila! Basta for this morning!
- So, instead of hearing the same mottoes and comments about the infinite hours you spend in your bathroom, better absence!
- And moreover, I am sure that you don't want to be caught in the process of... epilation!
- The solution is as simple as ABC! Two bathrooms! Thus he will never complain, you will never be angry with him and the misunderstandings between you will solve as a matter of course.
Rule N.8
Don't bother him with visits to your relatives
- No matter how much you love your Mom and those 5 naughty kids of your sister, don't "trail" your man to their birthday parties!
- Even though your family won't "devour" him, all they will analyze him from head to toes. For sure! Of course, he may not feel comfortable and chilled-out. That's just during the first encounter...
- Next time it will be worse... He will have to politely communicate with you lovely Mom and feel like a piece of meat which is thoroughly analyzed by a potential mother-in-law.
- How would you feel in his mother's clutches... without having no way out! Uhhh! This image gives you horrors, doesn't it?
Rule N.9
Think of a better job (better than his)
- Your lover has a job that involves lots of responsibilities. His wage is truly "marvelous" and he doesn't face any difficulties in providing you with presents and financial support.
- But... The world starts to belong to female CEOs and to those ladies who earn exorbitant sums of money.
- So, "prepare" your mind and body for 20 hours of work per day. Let him stay home, cook cakes, make vegetarian salads for you and entertain your children.
- Do you think you are condemned to lead your life in front of a pot and a bad-paid job? The Middle Ages has passed. So, make the most of your opportunities and make your life more thrilling.
- You are beautiful, clever, young and ready for new chances. You can obtain every profession you like, be it of a cosmonaut or a pilot of Formula 1.
Rule N.10
Experiment under sheets!
- "Is sex dirty? - Only if it's done right." This famous saying belongs to Woody Allen and the man is right.
- When speaking about sex - it's like in the kitchen. The clue is to experiment. As long as you are together, don't hesitate to explore your world of sexuality.
- Try out new things and sex positions, sex toys and kinky games for chasing the boredom away. Welcome his sexual fantasies and let them come true.
- And once you find everything you need and make you both happy within your bedroom, be sure infidelity will stay far away from you.
Good luck!
How To Have A Healthy Love Life
A lot of people say they'd like to have a healthy love life, but it all boils down to the question, "Are you willing to work for it?"
First thing to do is to get physical.
When most people would choose a twinkie over an apple, you'll have to be the one who has the wisdom and willpower to choose the apple. In a world increasingly addicted to TV, you and your mate will have to come up with the willpower to go out on a nature walk or bicycle ride.
Why?
Because you can't have a healthy love life unless you treat your body with the kind of love and respect that we're discussing. We're not talking about a six-week diet, we're considering a life-long program of better nutrition. We are not advocating a three-month exercise program here to take off two inches from the waist; we're pushing for regular exercise every day of our lives!
A good way to kick-start is with some cardiovascular exercises. The Harvard School of Public Health reports that men who were physically inactive were 40 percent more likely to experience erectile dysfunction than men who exercised a half hour a day.
A foundation of correct nutrition and regular exercise is necessary before we can begin to think about a healthy love life.
Eat to live and love.
Most of us do not realize how foods affect our moods, feelings, energy level, and behavior.
When we get down in the dumps, we don't automatically say, "Gosh, I must not have been eating right."
On the other hand, when we're feeling on top of the world we don't stop to think, "I'd like to feel this good more often." We don't relate how we feel to what we've been eating, but foods, vitamins, and minerals can make all the difference in the world between a so-so love life and the kind of love life that makes you smile every time you think about it.
Many people who think they have sex problems are actually victims of poor nutrition. They don't have sex problems. They have food problems. And food problems can be solved.
* Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee.
* Avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Sugar interferes with the sex life and reduces its pleasure.
* Cut back on milk and wheat products.
* Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas, juices for commercial soft drinks.
* De-stress and relax. The physical effects of long-term stress include colds, ulcers, asthma, heart attack, stroke, and chronic fatigue--all ailments that can erode your health and your love life.
Couples can de-stress together at the end of the day in more romantic ways, such as enjoying a lathery bubble bath for two, complete with scented candles, and a mug of warm milk and honey. Or just watch a movie together. The goals are to spend quality time together and put you on the path to total relaxation. It all takes effort to improve your love life--there is no substitute for balanced foods, no shortcut to good health but if you work at it, you can achieve a healthy love life.
First thing to do is to get physical.
When most people would choose a twinkie over an apple, you'll have to be the one who has the wisdom and willpower to choose the apple. In a world increasingly addicted to TV, you and your mate will have to come up with the willpower to go out on a nature walk or bicycle ride.
Why?
Because you can't have a healthy love life unless you treat your body with the kind of love and respect that we're discussing. We're not talking about a six-week diet, we're considering a life-long program of better nutrition. We are not advocating a three-month exercise program here to take off two inches from the waist; we're pushing for regular exercise every day of our lives!
A good way to kick-start is with some cardiovascular exercises. The Harvard School of Public Health reports that men who were physically inactive were 40 percent more likely to experience erectile dysfunction than men who exercised a half hour a day.
A foundation of correct nutrition and regular exercise is necessary before we can begin to think about a healthy love life.
Eat to live and love.
Most of us do not realize how foods affect our moods, feelings, energy level, and behavior.
When we get down in the dumps, we don't automatically say, "Gosh, I must not have been eating right."
On the other hand, when we're feeling on top of the world we don't stop to think, "I'd like to feel this good more often." We don't relate how we feel to what we've been eating, but foods, vitamins, and minerals can make all the difference in the world between a so-so love life and the kind of love life that makes you smile every time you think about it.
Many people who think they have sex problems are actually victims of poor nutrition. They don't have sex problems. They have food problems. And food problems can be solved.
* Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee.
* Avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Sugar interferes with the sex life and reduces its pleasure.
* Cut back on milk and wheat products.
* Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas, juices for commercial soft drinks.
* De-stress and relax. The physical effects of long-term stress include colds, ulcers, asthma, heart attack, stroke, and chronic fatigue--all ailments that can erode your health and your love life.
Couples can de-stress together at the end of the day in more romantic ways, such as enjoying a lathery bubble bath for two, complete with scented candles, and a mug of warm milk and honey. Or just watch a movie together. The goals are to spend quality time together and put you on the path to total relaxation. It all takes effort to improve your love life--there is no substitute for balanced foods, no shortcut to good health but if you work at it, you can achieve a healthy love life.
DNA Paternity Tests: Home Testing or Lab Testing?
The words "DNA testing" are most commonly associated with DNA paternity testing. We hear the term most often on television talk shows or perhaps in television courtrooms.
Paternity means fatherhood. Paternity is established when a paternity testing laboratory uses genetic testing methods to demonstrate that an alleged father is the biological father of a child. These DNA paternity tests are performed to a legal standard. Paternity is disproved when these same methods and standards demonstrate that an alleged father is not the biological father.
DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) is the genetic material in the cells of your body that govern inheritance of the color of your hair, eye color, your build, bone density and many other human and animal traits. DNA is a long, but narrow string-like object. A one-foot long string or strand of DNA is normally packed into a space roughly equal to a cube 1-millionth of an inch on a side. Not only does the human body rely on DNA but also so do most living things, including plants, animals and bacteria.
Every nucleated cell has 46 chromosomes, except the sperm cells from the man and the egg of the woman that only contain 23 chromosomes each. At the moment of conception, there are 46 chromosomes necessary to create a person. Thus, a person receives half of his/her genetic material or DNA from the biological mother, and the other half from the biological father.
Our body's cells each contain a complete sample of our DNA. There are muscle cells, brain cells, liver cells, blood cells, sperm cells and others. Basically, every part of the body is made up of these tiny cells and each contains a sample or complement of DNA identical to that of every other cell within a given person.
Every person's DNA is unique except for identical twins. Since it is so specific, just like a fingerprint, DNA paternity testing is the most powerful form of testing. DNA paternity testing is much more than a blood test. It can be performed on a much wider variety of samples, including blood cells, cheek cells, tissue samples, and semen. Since blood types, such as A, B, O, and Rh are more common within the general population; the power to differentiate individuals is not as high as with DNA paternity testing. Typical DNA test results are often 10 to 100 times more accurate than what the courts require.
Years ago, DNA testing required laboratory presence; however, there are now numerous types of home DNA tests available for use. These DNA test kits are available by direct shopping, mail order or online. The cost for these home DNA tests varies, depending on your specific desires. With a little research, you can even find a free DNA test. Most home DNA test kits are basically the same and are easy to use. For example, a basic, easy to use DNA paternity test kit may cost approximately $200.00. This low-cost DNA test kit is often used for proving paternity to a doubting father or for people who are simply looking for confirmation and peace of mind.
For approximately $225.00, a DNA test providing over 10 times more accuracy than the basic DNA test kit is available. Those with serious doubts concerning paternity and who want a higher accuracy rate than the basic DNA test kit commonly use this kit. Again, popular for those people who want that extra accuracy rating for peace of mind.
For those who simply have to have the best and are willing to pay for it, there is a higher accuracy rate DNA test kit available. This enables the parties to obtain an impressive accuracy rate that is offered by very few labs in the world. Keep in mind that DNA testing in itself is 99.999% accurate. The increased costs reflect the laboratory and higher accuracy rate of the type of test.
Another home DNA test will include testing for the mother, alleged father, and child. This will cost around $300.00. The mother does not have to be tested but is recommended if she is available (the price is the same). DNA paternity testing is so powerful that testing can be performed when the mother is not available.
Along with DNA paternity testing, a common use is the legal DNA test, i.e. to assist in matters of changing birth records, immigration issues, and inheritance issues. The average cost of this legal DNA test may cost approximately $400.00. The price structure of these kits depends on how many people are being tested. For example, mother, father and number of children. The cost to test each additional child can be anywhere from $150.00 to $175.00 per test.
Each DNA test kit listed above uses almost the exact same technique. Tests with higher accuracy involve testing more regions (parts) of each persons DNA. This extra work provides more information, and more accuracy – thus a higher, impressive accuracy rating.
With the home DNA test kit, it is recommended that samples be taken and sent to the lab within two weeks of each other (for best results). Samples have been tested up to 1 year old with positive results.
There are no age restrictions with DNA paternity testing. It used to be common procedure that only people over the age of 6 months could be tested. This was mainly due to the difficulty of drawing blood from small infants. In addition, a large sample, usually two big tubes of blood, was required. This would be very difficult on a small child. This is no longer the case. In fact, for paternity and custody issues, DNA testing can be done using buccal (cheek) swabs or umbilical cord blood collected at birth can be used and does allow for rapid and reliable testing regardless of age. Since the DNA is the same in every cell of the body, the accuracy of testing performed on cheek cells collected with a swab is the same as using the blood. The sample is collected by using a buccal swab and gently massaging the inside of the mouth. DNA can be extracted from this sample. This procedure is non-invasive and painless. This is the method used by the home DNA test kit.
However, DNA paternity testing only requires a few drops of blood (1/4 to 1/2 a teaspoon), or cheek cells collected by swabbing the mouth. This small amount of blood, or cheek swab, permits the easier testing of newborns and infants. Being that DNA is set at conception, a paternity test can be performed before the child is born, through Chorionic Villi Sampling (CVS) or Amniocentesis.
DNA Paternity testing can also be performed using post-mortem specimens collected by the coroner's office. A paternity test can be done when that person is deceased or missing by reconstructing his/her DNA patterns with samples from the deceased's biological relatives.
A DNA paternity test is the most accurate form of paternity testing possible. If the DNA patterns between the child and the alleged father do not match on two or more DNA probes, then that alleged father is 100% excluded which means he has a 0% probability of paternity – it is not possible that he can be the biological father of the child.
Paternity means fatherhood. Paternity is established when a paternity testing laboratory uses genetic testing methods to demonstrate that an alleged father is the biological father of a child. These DNA paternity tests are performed to a legal standard. Paternity is disproved when these same methods and standards demonstrate that an alleged father is not the biological father.
DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) is the genetic material in the cells of your body that govern inheritance of the color of your hair, eye color, your build, bone density and many other human and animal traits. DNA is a long, but narrow string-like object. A one-foot long string or strand of DNA is normally packed into a space roughly equal to a cube 1-millionth of an inch on a side. Not only does the human body rely on DNA but also so do most living things, including plants, animals and bacteria.
Every nucleated cell has 46 chromosomes, except the sperm cells from the man and the egg of the woman that only contain 23 chromosomes each. At the moment of conception, there are 46 chromosomes necessary to create a person. Thus, a person receives half of his/her genetic material or DNA from the biological mother, and the other half from the biological father.
Our body's cells each contain a complete sample of our DNA. There are muscle cells, brain cells, liver cells, blood cells, sperm cells and others. Basically, every part of the body is made up of these tiny cells and each contains a sample or complement of DNA identical to that of every other cell within a given person.
Every person's DNA is unique except for identical twins. Since it is so specific, just like a fingerprint, DNA paternity testing is the most powerful form of testing. DNA paternity testing is much more than a blood test. It can be performed on a much wider variety of samples, including blood cells, cheek cells, tissue samples, and semen. Since blood types, such as A, B, O, and Rh are more common within the general population; the power to differentiate individuals is not as high as with DNA paternity testing. Typical DNA test results are often 10 to 100 times more accurate than what the courts require.
Years ago, DNA testing required laboratory presence; however, there are now numerous types of home DNA tests available for use. These DNA test kits are available by direct shopping, mail order or online. The cost for these home DNA tests varies, depending on your specific desires. With a little research, you can even find a free DNA test. Most home DNA test kits are basically the same and are easy to use. For example, a basic, easy to use DNA paternity test kit may cost approximately $200.00. This low-cost DNA test kit is often used for proving paternity to a doubting father or for people who are simply looking for confirmation and peace of mind.
For approximately $225.00, a DNA test providing over 10 times more accuracy than the basic DNA test kit is available. Those with serious doubts concerning paternity and who want a higher accuracy rate than the basic DNA test kit commonly use this kit. Again, popular for those people who want that extra accuracy rating for peace of mind.
For those who simply have to have the best and are willing to pay for it, there is a higher accuracy rate DNA test kit available. This enables the parties to obtain an impressive accuracy rate that is offered by very few labs in the world. Keep in mind that DNA testing in itself is 99.999% accurate. The increased costs reflect the laboratory and higher accuracy rate of the type of test.
Another home DNA test will include testing for the mother, alleged father, and child. This will cost around $300.00. The mother does not have to be tested but is recommended if she is available (the price is the same). DNA paternity testing is so powerful that testing can be performed when the mother is not available.
Along with DNA paternity testing, a common use is the legal DNA test, i.e. to assist in matters of changing birth records, immigration issues, and inheritance issues. The average cost of this legal DNA test may cost approximately $400.00. The price structure of these kits depends on how many people are being tested. For example, mother, father and number of children. The cost to test each additional child can be anywhere from $150.00 to $175.00 per test.
Each DNA test kit listed above uses almost the exact same technique. Tests with higher accuracy involve testing more regions (parts) of each persons DNA. This extra work provides more information, and more accuracy – thus a higher, impressive accuracy rating.
With the home DNA test kit, it is recommended that samples be taken and sent to the lab within two weeks of each other (for best results). Samples have been tested up to 1 year old with positive results.
There are no age restrictions with DNA paternity testing. It used to be common procedure that only people over the age of 6 months could be tested. This was mainly due to the difficulty of drawing blood from small infants. In addition, a large sample, usually two big tubes of blood, was required. This would be very difficult on a small child. This is no longer the case. In fact, for paternity and custody issues, DNA testing can be done using buccal (cheek) swabs or umbilical cord blood collected at birth can be used and does allow for rapid and reliable testing regardless of age. Since the DNA is the same in every cell of the body, the accuracy of testing performed on cheek cells collected with a swab is the same as using the blood. The sample is collected by using a buccal swab and gently massaging the inside of the mouth. DNA can be extracted from this sample. This procedure is non-invasive and painless. This is the method used by the home DNA test kit.
However, DNA paternity testing only requires a few drops of blood (1/4 to 1/2 a teaspoon), or cheek cells collected by swabbing the mouth. This small amount of blood, or cheek swab, permits the easier testing of newborns and infants. Being that DNA is set at conception, a paternity test can be performed before the child is born, through Chorionic Villi Sampling (CVS) or Amniocentesis.
DNA Paternity testing can also be performed using post-mortem specimens collected by the coroner's office. A paternity test can be done when that person is deceased or missing by reconstructing his/her DNA patterns with samples from the deceased's biological relatives.
A DNA paternity test is the most accurate form of paternity testing possible. If the DNA patterns between the child and the alleged father do not match on two or more DNA probes, then that alleged father is 100% excluded which means he has a 0% probability of paternity – it is not possible that he can be the biological father of the child.
What Are Dream Really Made Of?
Have you ever considered what the heck dreams are really made of?
Many people believe dreams are simply a bunch of garbled thoughts strung together that don't mean anything in particular. If you taking the time to read this article, then chances are you probably believe that dreams are much more important than that…and they certainly are!
Your dreams are a true reflection of yourself at that particular point in your life. They encompass all of your thoughts, your emotions, your beliefs, and all of your desires. Think of your dreams as snapshots of what you are in the process of attracting or creating in your life at that time.
That last sentence is what dreams are really all about. They are signposts literally telling you the nature of things to come.
This isn't about prophetic dreams here, but the general direction your thoughts and emotions are taking you in. So in that light, giving your dreams some attention is to your great advantage!
Here's how it works –
Suppose that most of your waking thoughts are of worry, fear, frustration or beating yourself up over something you said or did, and so on. This is negative emotion that will naturally be reflected in your dreams.
However, your subconscious (or you higher self, or whatever you want to call it) is a lot smarter than your conscious self and will offer you nuggets of wisdom to make you more aware of the bigger picture. Awareness breeds the changes necessary to turn those negative thoughts and emotions around.
If you choose to do nothing about your negative state, then guess what…you'll get more of the same. If you choose to be more aware of your emotion and move toward the positive, then you will create more positive results in your life. That's the Law of Attraction at work and believe me, your dreams can really help you with this!
The message here is to become more interactive with your subconscious through your dreams and make use of them. You can start by asking yourself a question before you fall asleep at night and expect an answer.
Sweet Dreams!
Many people believe dreams are simply a bunch of garbled thoughts strung together that don't mean anything in particular. If you taking the time to read this article, then chances are you probably believe that dreams are much more important than that…and they certainly are!
Your dreams are a true reflection of yourself at that particular point in your life. They encompass all of your thoughts, your emotions, your beliefs, and all of your desires. Think of your dreams as snapshots of what you are in the process of attracting or creating in your life at that time.
That last sentence is what dreams are really all about. They are signposts literally telling you the nature of things to come.
This isn't about prophetic dreams here, but the general direction your thoughts and emotions are taking you in. So in that light, giving your dreams some attention is to your great advantage!
Here's how it works –
Suppose that most of your waking thoughts are of worry, fear, frustration or beating yourself up over something you said or did, and so on. This is negative emotion that will naturally be reflected in your dreams.
However, your subconscious (or you higher self, or whatever you want to call it) is a lot smarter than your conscious self and will offer you nuggets of wisdom to make you more aware of the bigger picture. Awareness breeds the changes necessary to turn those negative thoughts and emotions around.
If you choose to do nothing about your negative state, then guess what…you'll get more of the same. If you choose to be more aware of your emotion and move toward the positive, then you will create more positive results in your life. That's the Law of Attraction at work and believe me, your dreams can really help you with this!
The message here is to become more interactive with your subconscious through your dreams and make use of them. You can start by asking yourself a question before you fall asleep at night and expect an answer.
Sweet Dreams!
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DNA Paternity Tests: Home Testing or Lab Testing?
Paternity means fatherhood. Paternity is established when a paternity testing laboratory uses genetic testing methods to demonstrate that an alleged father is the biological father of a child. These DNA paternity tests are performed to a legal standard. Paternity is disproved when these same methods and standards demonstrate that an alleged father is not the biological father.
DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) is the genetic material in the cells of your body that govern inheritance of the color of your hair, eye color, your build, bone density and many other human and animal traits. DNA is a long, but narrow string-like object. A one-foot long string or strand of DNA is normally packed into a space roughly equal to a cube 1-millionth of an inch on a side. Not only does the human body rely on DNA but also so do most living things, including plants, animals and bacteria.
Every nucleated cell has 46 chromosomes, except the sperm cells from the man and the egg of the woman that only contain 23 chromosomes each. At the moment of conception, there are 46 chromosomes necessary to create a person. Thus, a person receives half of his/her genetic material or DNA from the biological mother, and the other half from the biological father.
Our body's cells each contain a complete sample of our DNA. There are muscle cells, brain cells, liver cells, blood cells, sperm cells and others. Basically, every part of the body is made up of these tiny cells and each contains a sample or complement of DNA identical to that of every other cell within a given person.
Every person's DNA is unique except for identical twins. Since it is so specific, just like a fingerprint, DNA paternity testing is the most powerful form of testing. DNA paternity testing is much more than a blood test. It can be performed on a much wider variety of samples, including blood cells, cheek cells, tissue samples, and semen. Since blood types, such as A, B, O, and Rh are more common within the general population; the power to differentiate individuals is not as high as with DNA paternity testing. Typical DNA test results are often 10 to 100 times more accurate than what the courts require.
Years ago, DNA testing required laboratory presence; however, there are now numerous types of home DNA tests available for use. These DNA test kits are available by direct shopping, mail order or online. The cost for these home DNA tests varies, depending on your specific desires. With a little research, you can even find a free DNA test. Most home DNA test kits are basically the same and are easy to use. For example, a basic, easy to use DNA paternity test kit may cost approximately $200.00. This low-cost DNA test kit is often used for proving paternity to a doubting father or for people who are simply looking for confirmation and peace of mind.
For approximately $225.00, a DNA test providing over 10 times more accuracy than the basic DNA test kit is available. Those with serious doubts concerning paternity and who want a higher accuracy rate than the basic DNA test kit commonly use this kit. Again, popular for those people who want that extra accuracy rating for peace of mind.
For those who simply have to have the best and are willing to pay for it, there is a higher accuracy rate DNA test kit available. This enables the parties to obtain an impressive accuracy rate that is offered by very few labs in the world. Keep in mind that DNA testing in itself is 99.999% accurate. The increased costs reflect the laboratory and higher accuracy rate of the type of test.
Another home DNA test will include testing for the mother, alleged father, and child. This will cost around $300.00. The mother does not have to be tested but is recommended if she is available (the price is the same). DNA paternity testing is so powerful that testing can be performed when the mother is not available.
Along with DNA paternity testing, a common use is the legal DNA test, i.e. to assist in matters of changing birth records, immigration issues, and inheritance issues. The average cost of this legal DNA test may cost approximately $400.00. The price structure of these kits depends on how many people are being tested. For example, mother, father and number of children. The cost to test each additional child can be anywhere from $150.00 to $175.00 per test.
Each DNA test kit listed above uses almost the exact same technique. Tests with higher accuracy involve testing more regions (parts) of each persons DNA. This extra work provides more information, and more accuracy – thus a higher, impressive accuracy rating.
With the home DNA test kit, it is recommended that samples be taken and sent to the lab within two weeks of each other (for best results). Samples have been tested up to 1 year old with positive results.
There are no age restrictions with DNA paternity testing. It used to be common procedure that only people over the age of 6 months could be tested. This was mainly due to the difficulty of drawing blood from small infants. In addition, a large sample, usually two big tubes of blood, was required. This would be very difficult on a small child. This is no longer the case. In fact, for paternity and custody issues, DNA testing can be done using buccal (cheek) swabs or umbilical cord blood collected at birth can be used and does allow for rapid and reliable testing regardless of age. Since the DNA is the same in every cell of the body, the accuracy of testing performed on cheek cells collected with a swab is the same as using the blood. The sample is collected by using a buccal swab and gently massaging the inside of the mouth. DNA can be extracted from this sample. This procedure is non-invasive and painless. This is the method used by the home DNA test kit.
However, DNA paternity testing only requires a few drops of blood (1/4 to 1/2 a teaspoon), or cheek cells collected by swabbing the mouth. This small amount of blood, or cheek swab, permits the easier testing of newborns and infants. Being that DNA is set at conception, a paternity test can be performed before the child is born, through Chorionic Villi Sampling (CVS) or Amniocentesis.
DNA Paternity testing can also be performed using post-mortem specimens collected by the coroner's office. A paternity test can be done when that person is deceased or missing by reconstructing his/her DNA patterns with samples from the deceased's biological relatives.
A DNA paternity test is the most accurate form of paternity testing possible. If the DNA patterns between the child and the alleged father do not match on two or more DNA probes, then that alleged father is 100% excluded which means he has a 0% probability of paternity – it is not possible that he can be the biological father of the child.
On the Incest Taboo
(Encyclopedia Britannica, 2004 Edition)
In contemporary thought, incest is invariably associated with child abuse and its horrific, long-lasting, and often irreversible consequences. Incest is not such a clear-cut matter as it has been made out to be over millennia of taboo. Many participants claim to have enjoyed the act and its physical and emotional consequences. It is often the result of seduction. In some cases, two consenting and fully informed adults are involved.
Many types of relationships, which are defined as incestuous, are between genetically unrelated parties (a stepfather and a daughter), or between fictive kin or between classificatory kin (that belong to the same matriline or patriline). In certain societies (the Native American or the Chinese) it is sufficient to carry the same family name (=to belong to the same clan) and marriage is forbidden.
Some incest prohibitions relate to sexual acts - others to marriage. In some societies, incest is mandatory or prohibited, according to the social class (Bali, Papua New Guinea, Polynesian and Melanesian islands). In others, the Royal House started a tradition of incestuous marriages, which was later imitated by lower classes (Ancient Egypt, Hawaii, Pre-Columbian Mixtec). Some societies are more tolerant of consensual incest than others (Japan, India until the 1930's, Australia).
The list is long and it serves to demonstrate the diversity of attitudes towards this most universal of taboos. Generally put, we can say that a prohibition to have sex with or marry a related person should be classified as an incest prohibition.
Perhaps the strongest feature of incest has been hitherto downplayed: that it is, essentially, an autoerotic act.
Having sex with a first-degree blood relative is like having sex with oneself. It is a Narcissistic act and like all acts Narcissistic, it involves the objectification of the partner. The incestuous Narcissist over-values and then devalues his sexual partner. He is devoid of empathy (cannot see the other's point of view or put himself in her shoes).
For an in depth treatment of Narcissism and its psychosexual dimension, see: "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" and "Frequently Asked Questions".
Paradoxically, it is the reaction of society that transforms incest into such a disruptive phenomenon. The condemnation, the horror, the revulsion and the attendant social sanctions interfere with the internal processes and dynamics of the incestuous family. It is from society that the child learns that something is horribly wrong, that he should feel guilty, and that the offending parent is a defective role model.
As a direct result, the formation of the child's Superego is stunted and it remains infantile, ideal, sadistic, perfectionist, demanding and punishing. The child's Ego, on the other hand, is likely to be replaced by a False Ego version, whose job it is to suffer the social consequences of the hideous act.
To sum up: society's reactions in the case of incest are pathogenic and are most likely to produce a Narcissistic or a Borderline patient. Dysempathic, exploitative, emotionally labile, immature, and in eternal search for Narcissistic Supply – the child becomes a replica of his incestuous and socially-castigated parent.
If so, why did human societies develop such pathogenic responses? In other words, why is incest considered a taboo in all known human collectives and cultures? Why are incestuous liaisons treated so harshly and punitively?
Freud said that incest provokes horror because it touches upon our forbidden, ambivalent emotions towards members of our close family. This ambivalence covers both aggression towards other members (forbidden and punishable) and (sexual) attraction to them (doubly forbidden and punishable).
Edward Westermarck proffered an opposite view that the domestic proximity of the members of the family breeds sexual repulsion (the epigenetic rule known as the Westermarck effect) to counter naturally occurring genetic sexual attraction. The incest taboo simply reflects emotional and biological realities within the family rather than aiming to restrain the inbred instincts of its members, claimed Westermarck.
Though much-disputed by geneticists, some scholars maintain that the incest taboo may have been originally designed to prevent the degeneration of the genetic stock of the clan or tribe through intra-family breeding (closed endogamy). But, even if true, this no longer applies. In today's world incest rarely results in pregnancy and the transmission of genetic material. Sex today is about recreation as much as procreation.
Good contraceptives should, therefore, encourage incestuous, couples. In many other species inbreeding or straightforward incest are the norm. Finally, in most countries, incest prohibitions apply also to non-genetically-related people.
It seems, therefore, that the incest taboo was and is aimed at one thing in particular: to preserve the family unit and its proper functioning.
Incest is more than a mere manifestation of a given personality disorder or a paraphilia (incest is considered by many to be a subtype of pedophilia). It harks back to the very nature of the family. It is closely entangled with its functions and with its contribution to the development of the individual within it.
The family is an efficient venue for the transmission of accumulated property as well as information - both horizontally (among family members) and vertically (down the generations). The process of socialization largely relies on these familial mechanisms, making the family the most important agent of socialization by far.
The family is a mechanism for the allocation of genetic and material wealth. Worldly goods are passed on from one generation to the next through succession, inheritance and residence. Genetic material is handed down through the sexual act. It is the mandate of the family to increase both by accumulating property and by marrying outside the family (exogamy).
Clearly, incest prevents both. It preserves a limited genetic pool and makes an increase of material possessions through intermarriage all but impossible.
The family's roles are not merely materialistic, though.
One of the main businesses of the family is to teach to its members self control, self regulation and healthy adaptation. Family members share space and resources and siblings share the mother's emotions and attention. Similarly, the family educates its young members to master their drives and to postpone the self-gratification which attaches to acting upon them.
The incest taboo conditions children to control their erotic drive by abstaining from ingratiating themselves with members of the opposite sex within the same family. There could be little question that incest constitutes a lack of control and impedes the proper separation of impulse (or stimulus) from action.
Additionally, incest probably interferes with the defensive aspects of the family's existence. It is through the family that aggression is legitimately channeled, expressed and externalized. By imposing discipline and hierarchy on its members, the family is transformed into a cohesive and efficient war machine. It absorbs economic resources, social status and members of other families. It forms alliances and fights other clans over scarce goods, tangible and intangible.
This efficacy is undermined by incest. It is virtually impossible to maintain discipline and hierarchy in an incestuous family where some members assume sexual roles not normally theirs. Sex is an expression of power – emotional and physical. The members of the family involved in incest surrender power and assume it out of the regular flow patterns that have made the family the formidable apparatus that it is.
These new power politics weaken the family, both internally and externally. Internally, emotive reactions (such as the jealousy of other family members) and clashing authorities and responsibilities are likely to undo the delicate unit. Externally, the family is vulnerable to ostracism and more official forms of intervention and dismantling.
Finally, the family is an identity endowment mechanism. It bestows identity upon its members. Internally, the members of the family derive meaning from their position in the family tree and its "organization chart" (which conform to societal expectations and norms). Externally, through exogamy, by incorporating "strangers", the family absorbs other identities and thus enhances social solidarity (Claude Levy-Strauss) at the expense of the solidarity of the nuclear, original family.
Exogamy, as often noted, allows for the creation of extended alliances. The "identity creep" of the family is in total opposition to incest. The latter increases the solidarity and cohesiveness of the incestuous family – but at the expense of its ability to digest and absorb other identities of other family units. Incest, in other words, adversely affects social cohesion and solidarity.
Lastly, as aforementioned, incest interferes with well-established and rigid patterns of inheritance and property allocation. Such disruption is likely to have led in primitive societies to disputes and conflicts - including armed clashes and deaths. To prevent such recurrent and costly bloodshed was one of the intentions of the incest taboo.
The more primitive the society, the more strict and elaborate the set of incest prohibitions and the fiercer the reactions of society to violations. It appears that the less violent the dispute settlement methods and mechanisms in a given culture – the more lenient the attitude to incest.
The incest taboo is, therefore, a cultural trait. Protective of the efficient mechanism of the family, society sought to minimize disruption to its activities and to the clear flows of authority, responsibilities, material wealth and information horizontally and vertically.
Incest threatened to unravel this magnificent creation - the family. Alarmed by the possible consequences (internal and external feuds, a rise in the level of aggression and violence) – society introduced the taboo. It came replete with physical and emotional sanctions: stigmatization, revulsion and horror, imprisonment, the demolition of the errant and socially mutant family cell.
As long as societies revolve around the relegation of power, its sharing, its acquisition and dispensation – there will always exist an incest taboo. But in a different societal and cultural setting, it is conceivable not to have such a taboo. We can easily imagine a society where incest is extolled, taught, and practiced - and out-breeding is regarded with horror and revulsion.
The incestuous marriages among members of the royal households of Europe were intended to preserve the familial property and expand the clan's territory. They were normative, not aberrant. Marrying an outsider was considered abhorrent.
An incestuous society - where incest is the norm - is conceivable even today.
Two out of many possible scenarios:
1. "The Lot Scenario"
A plague or some other natural disaster decimate the population of planet Earth. People remain alive only in isolated clusters, co-habiting only with their closest kin. Surely incestuous procreation is preferable to virtuous extermination. Incest becomes normative.
Incest is as entrenched a taboo as cannibalism. Yet, it is better to eat the flesh of your dead football team mates than perish high up on the Andes (a harrowing tale of survival recounted in the book and eponymous film, "Alive").
2. The Egyptian Scenario
Resources become so scarce that family units scramble to keep them exclusively within the clan.
Exogamy - marrying outside the clan - amounts to a unilateral transfer of scarce resources to outsiders and strangers. Incest becomes an economic imperative.
An incestuous society would be either utopian or dystopian, depending on the reader's point of view - but that it is possible is doubtless.
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